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Onedia Hayes Sylvest

I was a mom, naval officer, second career woman, wife, daughter, and so forth. NOW, I am doing and becoming more of my true self which happens to include my newly discovered (dagnosed) identity as an adult with ADHD. This discovery explains much about why I frequently feel so dazed, distracted, dismayed, and disorganized. So now I am discovering what this means for me in the present. Learning how to live more successfully with it in the future and reflecting how it brought me to this point. I intend to write about my discoveries and the challenges of learning new ways of doing things. It is my way of understanding and distilling the zillions of thoughts whirling in my head into some essential truth. Since there are many adults who go undiagnosed well into their mature years, I hope this will be both interesting and informative. Please comment and contribute as often as you like.

Mothers’ Day Viewed Through Tears

Mothers’ Day and Valentine’s Days are the two holidays that seem to generate all types of sentimental rhetoric, poems, songs, it goes on and on.  With no wish to diminish Mothers’ Day for anyone and no intention to address the overly romanticized VDAY…I would like drama e1304869237489 Mothers Day Viewed Through Tearsto comment about Mothers’ day for the folks who find it painfully awkward.

These are the people who stand in front of the card racks looking at the sentimental cards thinking, “NO Way , will I send that lie to her” or simply passing them by for something more truthful.  They turn to the humorous or the bland and simple , “Wishing you the best on this day” and ultimately grab the one that represents the closest to the truth or at least the smallest lie. Some succumb to the lie hoping it will somehow become truth.

These are the people… Continue reading

Some Thoughts For Those Who “Know”

More than I would like, I encounter people who respond to hearing about ADHD, mine or ADHD in general, with “Oh, I do that.”  implying that ADHD in adults is not really a problem because we do not behave like the archetype little boy bouncing off the walls. They also say, “This is nothing important. . .it is not like you have ” some dreadful disease”!. . . .You people are really smart… It is just A behavior disorder….you can deal with it. . .” All of these responses show that this person either does NOT know anything or is denying the realities of  ADHD.   They tell me in one way or another that it is no more than a character flaw or that I need to just get a grip or  to work harder.  It is a non- issue that can be easily altered with a little effort. … Continue reading

Ideas, Distractions, Writings and Art

Welcome to my website. I lean left, over analyze, decide with logic  over  sentiment, embrace asymmetry, get the heebie jeebies, exercise too   little and know my birth certificate lies. I am frequently  distracted, fidgety, forgetful, or dazed and dismayed.  I am an artist,  dabbler, writer, web designer, and certified gadgophile.  Onedia in Frida 300x200 Ideas, Distractions, Writings and Art I have had as many as five blogs going at a time covering a wide range of subjects. This current re-invention of the remaining two blogs (Fiery Heart  Designs and Onedia in The Ozarks) is necessitated by the need for a more  structured life both in my studio and in daily life.  I work from my  multi-media studio and occasionally from my chair in front of my  favorite news channels.

I   write guided only by my interests, my sense of good manners, my   moral compass, my conscience, and my agility of wit and words. I see my   world… Continue reading

ADHD Brains Are Different

nimh brain scan

Right image shows less neuron activity in ADHD brain compared to non-ADHD brain. Click picture for article and larger photo.

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