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April 19th, 2009 by Onedia Hayes Sylvest

I Was Asked For Five Reasons I Love Being A Mother

My friend at Eve’s Lungs tagged me to write a post about five reasons I love being a mother. Since I wrote about why I like being a woman, this is a natural sequel. Is there a post on being a wife in the wings?p1000875 300x299 I Was Asked For Five Reasons I Love Being A Mother

I will preface this with my philosophy of parenting. Our job is to prepare our children for the world they will live in and to be good people in that world. We need to avoid getting hung up in the minute details, they seem to take care of themselves. Teach them to solve problems and learn how to make decisions which means allowing them to make poor decisions and to fail with a safety net. Teach them to be kind and to stand up for others when they are being mistreated. Hug, kiss, cuddle and laugh with them. Tell them that we love them. Tell them we are sorry when we mess up. Keep our sense of humor. That’s enough! Read the rest of this entry »

June 15th, 2008 by Onedia Hayes Sylvest

The Fathers in My Life

Today, I would like to acknowledge the important fathers in my life and say how much I appreciate what they have been to me and mine.

First, of course, there is my father who never used my gender to tell me what I must do or to tell me what I could not do. He encouraged me to pursue my dreams instead of trying to get me to do what made him happy. Later, he was the best grandfather a little girl could ever want taking her on drives and teaching her to fish and tie her shoes. I hope I have him for many more years.

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The next father is the one I acquired with marriage. Ed embraced me as a daughter from the first time we met on the phone. He has been my sounding board, champion, and adviser. He has supported me in all my pursuits and quietly demonstrates his affection and trust. He accepted an instant granddaughter and made her his own. He spent hours enriching her life, having fun, and challenging her intellect and creativity. He demonstrated the kindest and most unconditional love that is possible.

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Finally, the father who made me a better mother. He loved his instant daughter as much as she adored him. He was tuned into her emotions and her hopes and dreams. He nurtured her intellect and creativity with books, music, art supplies, and encouragement. He drove her to piano lessons, violin lessons, riding lessons and any other activity that was important to her. He taught her to ride a bike and to hold a hammer. He helped her learn math and chemistry. He is the father any little girl would adore and any mother would want as a parenting partner. He taught me to be more patient and more tuned in to her moods. He is Matthew.

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April 23rd, 2008 by Onedia Hayes Sylvest

Panaceas, Problems, and Promises

We have an interesting way of informing people about health and medical issues in the United States. Endless advertisements in all media alert us to this illness or that syndrome with lists of symptoms and dire outcomes if untreated or the rapture of relief when treated. This public service is accompanied by beneficent proclamation of a prescription medication that will treat the ailment. The announcement of a treatment comes with urgings to speak to our doctor about that medication followed closely by a hair-raising list of possible side effects.

So, for the susceptible, there are all the questions about the cause of the odd ache or pain possibly with a rush to the crowded doctor’s office. If already on a medication, this raises questions, “am I on the right med or maybe this new one is better.”

If, when you get your medicine, you should actually read the tiny print of the multiple pages of disclaimers, instructions, and alarming side effects, you might be hesitant to take that medication in case your stomach bleeds, heart stops, liver fails, or blood pressure rises.

Then when settled in for your favorite television show or even the morning news, you will be assaulted with this or that law firm telling you to call them for a free consultation if you suffered this side effect or that side effect from your medication. You might be eligible to take legal action!

So, World, how insane is this. In this country people are spending hundreds or thousands of dollars each month for essential medications and health care is a luxury for thousands upon thousands of people. Do we need drug companies spending this kind of money on advertising while at the same time satisfying their legal counsels angst over possible…errr probable litigation when one person out of 100,000 has a severe side effect?

In addition to paying for the development of the drug, we must also factor in the costs of the advertisements, the disclaimers, the legal counsel, the cost of litigation and settlement, and the rising costs of packaging and delivery. Oh, and don’t forget the cost at the dispensing end for the pharmacy to print those disclaimers, manage the communications with the insurance companies, and talk to alarmed patients about taking the medicine and its possible side effects.

The whole thing needs a rethink. Those attorney ads, well, don’t think I have forgotten them. They are worthy of their own post.

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