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May 4th, 2010 by Onedia Hayes Sylvest

A Few Thoughts on Government and Duty

I clipped these quotes some time ago thinking to use one or the other in a post.  I reread them periodically and today realized that these brilliant thinkers need nothing from me but an introduction.

THOMAS PAINE:

We hold the moral obligation of providing for old age, helpless infancy, and poverty is far superior to that of supplying the invented wants of courtly extravagance.

THOMAS JEFFERSON:

I am not an advocate for frequent changes in laws and constitutions, but laws and institutions must go hand in hand with the progress of the human mind. As that becomes more developed, more enlightened, as new discoveries are made, new truths discovered and manners and opinions change, with the change of circumstances, institutions must advance also to keep pace with the times. We might as well require a man to wear still the coat which fitted him when a boy as civilized society to remain ever under the regimen of their barbarous ancestors.

THOMAS JEFFERSON:

The care of human life and happiness, and not their destruction, is the first and only object of good government.

HUBERT H. HUMPHREY:

It was once said that the moral test of Government is how that Government treats those who are in the dawn of life, the children; those who are in the twilight of life, the elderly; and those who are in the shadows of life, the sick, the needy and the handicapped.

THICH NHAT HANH:

You who are journalists, writers, citizens, you have the right and duty to say to those you have elected that they must practice mindfulness, calm and deep listening, and loving speech. This is universal thing, taught by all religions.

BARACK OBAMA:

You know, there’s a lot of talk in this country about the federal deficit. But I think we should talk more about our empathy deficit – the ability to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes; to see the world through the eyes of those who are different from us — the child who’s hungry, the steelworker who’s been laid-off, the family who lost the entire life they built together when the storm came to town. When you think like this — when you choose to broaden your ambit of concern and empathize with the plight of others, whether they are close friends or distant strangers — it becomes harder not to act; harder not to help.

Yes, our greatness as a nation has depended on individual initiative, on a belief in the free market. But it has also depended on our sense of mutual regard for each other, of mutual responsibility. The idea that everybody has a stake in the country, that we’re all in it together and everybody’s got a shot at opportunity. Americans know this. We know that government can’t solve all our problems – and we don’t want it to. But we also know that there are some things we can’t do on our own. We know that there are some things we do better together.

April 12th, 2010 by Onedia Hayes Sylvest

Lessons We Forgot: A Reminder From Robert Fulghum

I used to h ave this in a frame on my office by the door so all could see it when they exited.  I don’t know where that framed copy is now, but I am certain it is not in Congress or even in Kindergarten classrooms.  I don’t even think parents are remembering this is out there.  It is sad to say but most of us Boomers seem to have forgotten what our mothers taught us about getting along and we certainly 1 seem to have forgotten to teach these to our children.  They are worth post with a nod and a link to Robert Fulgham at the end of the post.

ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN

(a guide for Global Leadership)

All I really need to know about how to live and what to do and how to be I learned in kindergarten. Wisdom was not at the top of the graduate school mountain, but there in the sand pile at school. These are the things I learned:

Share everything.
Play fair.
Don’t hit people.
Put things back where you found them.
Clean up your own mess.
Don’t take things that aren’t yours.
Say you’re sorry when you hurt somebody.
Wash your hands before you eat.
Flush.
Warm cookies and cold milk are good for you.
Live a balanced life – learn some and think some and draw and paint and sing and dance and play and work every day some.
Take a nap every afternoon.
When you go out in the world, watch out for traffic, hold hands and stick together.
Be aware of wonder. Remember the little seed in the Styrofoam cup: the roots go down and the plant goes up and nobody really knows how or why, but we are all like that.
Goldfish and hamsters and white mice and even the little seed in the Styrofoam cup – they all die. So do we.
And then remember the Dick-and-Jane books and the first word you learned – the biggest word of all – LOOK.
Everything you need to know is in there somewhere. The Golden Rule and love and basic sanitation. Ecology and politics and equality and sane living.

Take any one of those items and extrapolate it into sophisticated adult terms and apply it to your family life or your work or government or your world and it holds true and clear and firm. Think what a better world it would be if we all - the whole world – had cookies and milk at about 3 o’clock in the afternoon and then lay down with our blankies for a nap. Or if all governments had as a basic policy to always put things back where they found them and to clean up their own mess.

And it is still true, no matter how old you are, when you go out in the world, it is best to hold hands and stick together.

Source: ALL I REALLY NEED TO KNOW I LEARNED IN KINDERGARTEN” by Robert Fulghum. See his web site, Robert Fulghum.

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March 31st, 2010 by Onedia Hayes Sylvest

The Power of Letting Go

I sit here in front of my open window with the woods full of greened bush honeysuckle and singing birds.  The wind is at breeze strength with a steady motion in the red cedar tree.  It is a beautiful day.  Lovely start to any day.  I note that our  small bat house on the garden shed finally seems to have tenants. Not bats but a small bird not yet identified.  Our bluebird boxes are also occupied and we have rabbits in the stacks and piles of wood from last year’s ice damage.  Although annoying when they raid the bird food we also have a raccoon pair. It is a country kind of place even though I can still see the house on the street behind us.  Three acres, mostly woods, gives us plenty of space.  Although I lament that we did not find, nor could we have afforded, a place with a view of the lake, we are only five minutes to the boat dock and access to one of the loveliest, purest lakes you might find.

I moved every three years for most of my adult life starting in college.  I even changed universities. The longest I lived any place since my 18th birthday is six years.  We are now in our fourth year here and we expect to be here for more than another six years.  As I may have indicated in earlier posts it is not the ideal location for us.  The summers are still too humid and hotter than we like, even for a pair who grew up in southern Arkansas and central Dallas. That has been difficult but  we resolve to eventually spend August in cooler climes or in the air conditioned studios or on the lake.

The more difficult aspect of this location has been adjusting to the community.  Having lived in culturally diverse mostly urban settings for thirty years this area with little, well virtually no, cultural diversity is so vanilla that when we see someone of color or distinctively different culture in a local place we become almost giddy with excitement.  Yes, it seems silly to you perhaps, but we do.  We have high hopes that as the two-year local campus of Arkansas State University grows into a four year campus it will attract more culturally diverse residents.  For now most of our diversity consists of a few Hispanic families and a few Asian families mostly aligned with our Asian and Mexican restaurants.

The political, social, and religious attitudes in the area are mostly conservative and Republican and sometimes downright bigoted.  I have written of this before to the extent that a year ago we were determined to find a way to pull stakes and move to Northern Maine.  Fortunately, a series of events occurred that led to a determination to make this place work for us.  One draw for me especially is that my sister plans to move here soon and I am delighted for the chance to finally spend a lot of time with her.  In the meantime we continue to find, almost one person at a time, those who are simpatico.

People sometimes raise an eyebrow when they hear me speak of Facebook, but that proved an excellent source of finding people who are more liberal minded in ways similar to us.  Somehow, in that forum we are able to have friends and relations connected to us who are both like-minded and opposite-minded.  So, I meet people with whom I  to share my thoughts candidly, stay tuned in with old friends from Texas, Portland and the Navy. I can also stay in daily contact with my sister and nieces and get to know cousins and children of cousins even though we don’t agree on issues.  I call that good!

The other way that we are building relationships is through the artistic community.  Oddly, in this place that is so different than that in our mind’s eyes for our mature years, we have finally found friends with similar interests (music and art and books) and attitudes that we sought unsuccessfully over the years.  One by one through our love of art and our desire to create art we are feeling in a good place.  That process actually accelerated recently when the local artisan gallery closed for business and we had to look for alternative showplaces for our work.

My friend, Marion, often reminds me  that  recent events and new friendships are most likely due to synchronicity.   She is right. I really believe synchronicity has taken charge since we came to this part of the Ozarks. Thankfully and much against our natures, we finally decided to let go, be patient, and allow the universe to work a little magic around us.

I sat down  intending to write about the irritations of politics and misguided attitudes bubbling all around lately. However, the gentle breeze and the view from my window along with the bird on my fig tree reached out, touched my spirit and spoke.

Stop! For once stop and appreciate rather than evaluate.”

So, on this stunningly beautiful day I am able to sit at my studio window where my friends my newest friends were the first to visit just last night and know with certainty that even with my beloved broken boat on the trailer in the drive I am content.

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